Step 10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
Bill Wilson, founder of Alcoholics Anonymous, did not promptly admit he was wrong to steal the copyright and royalties of the Big Book from his 31 coauthors. Like all cult leaders, he made rigid rules for others which became flexible for himself. This man claimed to be practicing AA principles in all his affairs but clearly wasn’t.
Personal inventory was already done in Step 4. Step 5 was confession. Steps 6 and 7 were demanding a miracle fix from God. Steps 8 and 9 were on further enumerating and confessing sins. Now ten says to do a continuous eternal loop of the fourth through ninth steps. This makes seven steps in a row focused on confession.
If you work with a licensed therapist to address the social anxiety, grief, or depression that leads so many to self-medication, you can expect changes over time. Your first session won’t ber exactly like your tenth or twentieth. Your therapist will give you new healthy coping methods, help you set goals to make your life better, and lead you to new insights.
Those insights will not be entirely comprised of things you need to confess. It was in therapy I learned to stop thinking of my teen self as a bad child who didn’t deserve love, not in twelve steps groups. The twelve steps could not teach me I had worth or that I was entitled to dignity. They were too busy inducing guilt and shame.
Alcoholics Anonymous wants its members overwhelmed by feelings of inferiority, and uses language throughout cult published literature to reinforce them. Bill Wilson referred to alcoholics as “crazy” and “stupid drunks”, and assumed they were all as violent and suicidal in their binges as he was. This is not how you build up a vulnerable person so they’re empowered to face their demons. It’s how you keep cult members reliant on you hearing their confession. It is their only source of relief (besides booze, which AA doesn’t say to stop drinking.)